What I dislike the most.....

What I dislike the most is liars. I really hate liars. My ex is the biggest liar around. It is really sad how a grown man almost 30 doesn't know how to do anything but lie. I had just wrote a post about how he lied to me the past 2 weeks about his girlfriend getting an abortion and that he wanted to work things out with me and be in this baby thing with me. It was all a lie. It just makes me wonder what does he get out of lying, what does it do for him, does it make him feel good as a person to tell lies all the time? He is just not a good guy but he was the guy I fell in love with. Now I feel like I do not know who he is anymore. He is definitely not the same guy that I fell in love with. As much as I know I'm better off without him it is apart of me that still wishes things would have worked out and we were still together. It seems like after we broke up he just became a different person. It really hurts me how things are and the way he treats me like I'm this evil person that has done nothing but wrong to him. I have never treated him bad not the way he has been treating me. Who would want to be with someone like that? I just know I am better off and I can except that.

In complete shock......

Well apparently my ex's girlfriend is still pregnant. He literally lied this whole time and said she got an abortion. I guess she is further along then I thought because he said it was a boy. Imagine my face when he made it seem like I shouldn't be upset. You have been lying and telling me stories all this time and nothing was true. I feel like I have to eat my words from my last post because none of it is going to happen. He is still telling me to get an abortion and I thought we were done and he was excepting it and trying to be in it with me. This all has truly hurt my feelings. The other day he was treating me like he wanted to be with me. Laying with me, kissing me, telling me he missed us and then two days later to start treating me like nothing ever happened and start treating me hatefully because I won't get an abortion. You can not force anyone to get an abortion you can just choose not to have anything to do with it. I was already planning on doing this alone until he started playing these mind games and pretending that he wanted to be with me. I'm just left in tears because I don't understand how I can get treated this way. He makes it seem like I got myself pregnant. He keeps saying what am I going to do with another kid? I say shouldn't you be asking your girlfriend the same question? It's not even guaranteed that yall will even be together in the next year. She just might be stupid enough to stay with him after he done cheated on her and got the other girl pregnant. I just feel so lost and don't know what to do I feel like I have to go through all of this by myself. He's pretty much telling me that if I don't get an abortion that he doesn't want to have anything to do with me. I don't understand how anyone who claims to love someone would tell them to get an abortion and if they don't they don't want anything to do with them. I know a real man wouldn't say anything like that. It's sad when you don't know if anything that comes out of his mouth is true. It seem like everything he ever says is a lie. It is truly sad and I wish I wasn't going through this bull right now but it is what it is. I am going to have to figure out what I am going to do eventually but I plan on keeping this baby so I am sure I am going to have to go through all of this alone. I wish things could be different and I could be happy about things like I was in my last post but those dreams have been shattered now its back to a bad reality.

Boring day.........

Today is a boring day. I have been in the house all day. Wanted to get out but didn't so maybe tomorrow. I took a much needed nap. I feel like so far the symptoms I have are nausea when I smell a certain kind of smell, fatigue which I always had before I was pregnant and I feel like I get full fast. I think it's a little too early to be getting full fast after eating so I wonder what is up with that. What if I was having twins? That would be crazy but so cool. If I did I would want both girls. If I had to have a boy I would want a girl to come with the deal. I just want all girls and no boys so we will see if it works out that way. I have already set up my first 3 appointments and I'm ready to go to this first one so I can get the feeling of being pregnant to finally hit me and I want to make sure everything is going good. I do need to work on getting my own place. That is something I need to do within the next couple months. It just seems like there is a lot to do between working, going to school and taking care of my daughter. I am going to have to let my mom and sister know soon because I don't know if my sister would want to live with me knowing I'm about to have another kid. I guess we'll see how that works out. At least I should be able to qualify for assistance. I should be able to receive wic for myself again because I was able to have it when I was pregnant the last time. I can add this baby on to the ccdf that I am already getting and I should be able to get food stamps again. I guess before I can do all of that I have to get a proof of pregnancy. I'm not worried about the food stamps until I move so it is a lot to take care of. I have my first appointment in a week in a half then my second one 2 weeks from that and then my third one the beginning of June. I'm just ready to get this started and things situated. It just seems like a lot to think about.

Looks like things might be changing......

Well it looks like things might be changing for me. My ex and my daughter's father is starting to tell me that he wants to be with me again. I guess he is finally going to break up with his girlfriend and we are hopefully going to work on getting things right between us and our family. I have been saying since all of this had happened that I pray one day that GOD would slap some sense into him because I just couldn't see how he could throw everything away and move on to someone else so fast.  The other day he was telling me about getting an abortion because we weren't together. I don't know what it was that made him change his mind but I'm just glad we will be able to work on things before this baby gets here. I'm only 1 month in so far so there is plenty of time. I know before anything happens we are going to have to find time to have a long talk. We are going to have to get everything we need to say to each other out in the open. I will definitely have to work on my trust with him that is the main thing for me. I couldn't really trust him when we were together and the way he did the girl he's with now it just scares me. I don't want to be in a relationship if he is going to be sneaking around behind my back and cheating on me. I think we should start off slow I don't think I want to be in a full out relationship when he is about to get out of one. I hope things work out better this time around.

Another day.....

Well here's to another day. I am officially 27 years old and I will be 5 weeks pregnant tomorrow. Still haven't told my mom yet but I will be telling her soon. I told my ex and of course he tells me to get an abortion. I don't now how someone who claims to love you would tell you to get an abortion. I personally don't believe in abortions. I know this isn't a good time to be having another kid but GOD makes no mistakes. No one said life was suppose to be easy so all I can do is my best. Personally, I think he is telling me to get an abortion because he just doesn't want to have to come clean to his girlfriend that he has been cheating on her with his ex and his daughters mother and now he got her pregnant. He told me that she had got an abortion but then again I don't know if I should believe him. He likes to lie a lot and I'm thinking he would tell me she got an abortion to make me think well if she got one then I should get one too. I guess we'll find out in a couple of months if she really got one or not. I told him that if he doesn't want to have anything to do with this kid then he doesn't it is his choice but I don't believe in taking the easy way out so we will see how this plays out in the end.

I still can not believe that I am pregnant. It just seems so surreal. I don't think I will begin to believe until I have my first doctor's appointment then it will start to hit me. So far I haven't had any noticeable symptoms and hopefully it will stay that way. Yesterday, I was on YouTube looking up pregnancy stuff and came across this girl named Tiffany's vlog. Now I use to go to her vlog all the time when I was pregnant the first time. She did videos every week about her pregnancy. Come to find out she had another baby last year and did more week by week videos about this pregnancy. She really seems like a put together person. She has a boyfriend who became her fiancée and they bought a house together. I don't now about her but her fiancée seems to have a good job and they are raising their kids together. She also has an amazing body for someone with two kids. She eats right and works out and she just looks very together. Her hair always looks amazing whether she wears it curly or straight and her make up is always perfect and she has a nice sense of style. I wish I could get my life together like her. I always feel like I'm just frumpy looking all the time. I know after I have this baby I want to lose weight and do a better job at it then I did the first time around. I am going to do my best to exercise through this pregnancy. See if I can find some decent pregnancy workout video and use them through out. I am going to try and walk as much as I can and drink lots of water. That's all for now. I am going to keep writing as much as I can through this pregnancy I know I didn't do it like I wanted to the first time around.

This can not be real!......

Today I just found out that I am pregnant! OMG! It should be a happy time but right now I am in limbo and do not know what to do. I am scared to tell anybody and for now I am just going to keep it to myself. I had a feeling something was wrong because my period never came. I was at least expecting it today and it never showed up. This is the same thing that happened when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. I didn't get my period, went to buy tests after work, went home took them and they came out positive. I hate that I am not even in a relationship so what's gong to happen? Am I gong to have to go through all of this alone? I had my ex with me the first time and I will probably be on my own this time. I am so scared to tell anybody right now I just want to give it some time to sink in first because this is seriously shocking to me. I can not believe this is happening right now. I know I am going to have to tell the father soon and it is no other than my daughter's father so at least my kids will have the same dad but this is not good news. We have been messing around for the past 2 months and he has been telling me since that he is still in love with me and he misses me and misses us together but he is still with the other girl he has been with all this time. He pretty much told me he would have rather been with me then her but yet he kept staying with her and would not leave. I figured it was because she had her own place to live and I didn't and he didn't either. Well come to find out last week he tells me she is pregnant so now he has 2 women pregnant at the same time. I so wish I could have given that girl advice before all of this happened. He not only has been cheating on her and lying to her face everyday but now he got the woman he has been cheating on her with pregnant and at the same time as her. Will see how long this relationship is going to last because I don't know any woman that would stay with a man who would put her through all of that. If he was any kind of real man he would have had the balls to tell the girl the truth from the beginning but no and now look at the situation he got himself into. I wonder what his reaction is going to be when I tell him because 2 months ago he told me he didn't want anymore kids and that he was going to get a vasectomy. Looks like he should have did it instead of talking about it because he is about to have 4 kids instead of just 2. I just hope I can keep myself out of his drama. He pretty much told me he is only staying with her because she is pregnant so we'll see how long that lasts. I just want to worry about doing what's best for me and this baby inside of me. I'm not too far along yet I think it will be 4 weeks on Wednesday. I do hope it is another girl though. I don't think I could handle a boy and I really don't want to but I will take whatever the LORD blesses me with. I am sad at how the guy I have been talking to is going to take the news. I know it is going to hurt him and I don't see a relationship happening with him once I tell him. All I can do is take it all day by day and hopefully everything will work itself out in the end. I do hope that I will be able to stay in school that is the one thing that I want to work out. I am so scared right now. I wanted to wait until I got married to have more kids and now I am in this situation and do not know what is going to happen or what I should do. Why me?

Took a little trip......

This weekend I took a trip up to Chicago to visit and spend time with my boyfriend. He lives in Chicago which is kind of cool because it gives me a reason to come up here but it could cause problems in the long run. Anyway, I came Friday by bus and wanted to make the 5:35pm bus but it was sold out and I could have took the 8:15pm which was the next one but I figured I could just take megabus but had to get my ticket online since they didn't have an actual station so I missed that. I went back to the bus station too late because I was figuring out if I should have taken the 8:15pm bus or stay in town and he was just going to come down here because I did not want to drive. So I sat around in my car waiting to hear what he wanted to do and he waited until it was 8:00pm to tell me to get on the 8:15pm bus so then I had to rush and get back to the bus station which didn't work out because I missed the bus and I think it was sold out so I stayed and waited for the 10:15pm bus. Finally got on the bus which already had a lot of people already on it and headed up to Chicago. The thing that bothered me was that my boyfriend was in a car accident Thursday so I'm wondering how I'm going to get to my hotel. I was able to catch a cab and instead of just taken me where I needed to go, the cab driver is trying to be all in my business then once I got to the hotel he had me give him my number which of course I gave him a fake number.  I'm sure he asks all the women who gets in his cab for their number. So I made it to my room and it was nice to be able to relax. I was planning on spending all of Saturday with my boyfriend but only got to spend 30-40mins with him all together because he had to leave to check on his car. I guess he was able to get his car out but it broke down on him and he had to wait for a ride. Well it is about to be 6:30 in the morning and I still haven't seen him. I leave today and I'll start heading for the bus station by 8. My bus leaves at 9:45. I'm still trying to figure out how I'm going to get to the bus station, I guess I have to call myself a cab. I don't know if I will get to see him before I leave, I have call him twice already with no answer. So I feel like I pretty much wasted time coming up here and wish I hadn't of if I knew I was going to spend the whole time up here alone. The only good thing about coming was the hotel which I stayed in the whole time but I was able to watch kuwtk since I haven't had the chance of watching it since I don't have cable and I noticed that the Chinese places up here offer more food than they do at home. I saw coconut shrimp on the menu which is what I ordered and I have never seen it on any of the menus back home. I ordered myself some and if was okay but I think the coconut sauce was too sweet. I like the coconut shrimp that the sauce is like a syrup. I am ready to go back home but not ready to go back to my life of school and work.